Before I even type this, let me preface this by saying I don't think there is a perfect answer to what I'm asking. Actually I'm just sort of throwing some thoughts out there to be read.
Dating is hard enough as it is, and based on my "the one" topic we all want to find "the one" and live happily ever after. Now, I'm the first one to step back and say that I truly believe in the old-fashioned days of "Leave it to Beaver" where the Dad goes to work and the Mom stayed home to take care of the home and the kids. Yep, believe it or not I believe in the concept. Simpler time, Simpler life and things seemed to just work out well for a well balanced child and family.
However, times change and we all must change with them and there is nothing wrong with that. I accept that a child can be raised healthy by one single parent, two gay parents, two lesbian parents. As long as the child is raised healthy and stable I'm all for it.
That being said, dating...........in today's society have we evolved enough to say it's truly OK to "date around" and not label the guy or girl who chooses that life? OR, better yet what is he/she wants to date two people at the same time? Here is the thing....you start to date one person and you meet a second person and you like them both. Most say you must choose one and go for it and go through the motions. You put all this energy into this one person only to find out 6-7 months down the road (if not longer) it just wasn't meant to be and where does that leave both of you? Back at square one. Then you both start all over again.
So, if you are dating two people and you are open and honest with them and they maybe are doing the same then you have options. Now, the intimacy comes in to play doesn't it? That for me would have to be discussed that when you decide to make that choice then maybe you have to decide, maybe not - that is between the couples. In today's world unfortunately you can't just sleep around.
All I'm saying is that why do we dictate ourselves to one person, one path, one disaster after another and then we start all over again time and time again. It's like this ridiculous ritual that repeats itself.
Men seem to get away with dating several girls at a time, but women seem to get "labeled" when they try it. This has always blown me away. I think its time this changes.
These are just random thoughts for the day and no I'm not revamping my life, just talking with friends today and we had some thoughts....
As always, points to ponder.
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