Monday, February 25, 2008

My Blog is Moving........



MY BLOG PAGE IS MOVING TO WWW.EMPRESSSASSY.COM

I'm going to the World Wide Web! I hope you will add me to your favorites and continue to read my entries, quote of the day, word of the day and check out my links!

Please note it is kind of plain looking at the moment, but I'm still under construction and it will look better by the end of the week.

Thanks!

Death of an Ipod



My Ipod is dead. It died quietly; without any warning and from what I can tell in its sleep while not in use.

Now, had this been my vacuum cleaner, my hair dryer, or even my curling iron, I would not have a care in the world; as I’m not exactly good to these items. I have bumped them, dropped them and don’t exactly take care of them as I should. However, this Ipod has a life of luxury. It had its own case, its own resting place in the evenings and I always wrapped it up when I took it outside in the cold or heat. I never once abused it, dropped it or even scratched it. I never even let anyone borrow it!

It just died. The hard drive stopped spinning and I got a man with a “mad face” on the screen, which Jacob proceeded to tell me was very bad. Of course my warranty has expired and I have to now purchase a new one. Not that I’m complaining, as I can upgrade to one that I can watch videos, but it’s just that it died for no reason.

I’m wondering if it committed suicide. Maybe it hated the music I played? I had almost 3,000 songs, but maybe it was just so over my song choices it couldn’t take it anymore! Is my taste in music so awful that it just had to die to stop playing it? I will rethink this when I purchase my new one and begin to download all my music.

Today is a sad day, as I loved my Ipod very much and I hate to lose it. It has gotten me through many moments; some sad, some happy, some full or energy and some just because I needed to hear that perfect song.

I will mourn for my Ipod (only of course until I get my new one!)

Vantage Point



I can only say that although this would be considered a good movie, I personally didn't care for it. It had action, but truly no point that I could see. I'm a Dennis Quaid fan so that helped a lot, but it had a "Ground Hog" feel and the audience at our viewing actually laughed out loud at about the 4th "Vantage Point of view" which sort of tells you everyone was tired of the scenario going on during the movie.

The President gets shot, however it's a dummy President, but the twist is that the terrorist know this and actually kidnap the real President. It's up to Dennis to get him back. The papers said it was supposed to be the most awesome car chase ever made but I have to disagree. I've seen better in the Bourne Identity and a couple others actually. I can't even say I would recommend this unless you just like action flicks and there is nothing else you want to see.

Jacob of course, liked it and will disagree with all of this and tell you it was a good movie (which I said that), but I just didn't like it.

Friday, February 22, 2008

My Space Generation



Every generation makes the same statement about the generation behind them, “If this is what we have to rely upon, what will happen to this world?” We tend to think they are lazier than us, don’t excel as we did or take the responsibility as seriously as we did. History has taught us however that the world continues to move forward, but I must admit as I get older I too look at my child’s generation and feel the same way.

Today’s world of “My Space” and “Face Page” has created a generation of communication individuals and it’s out of control. If you haven’t taken the time to view your child’s My Space page, you need to invade their privacy and do so; I guarantee that you will be not only amazed, but shocked at the conversations that are being held on these pages. It’s disgusting, vile and juvenile and these are “young adults” at the age of 20 up to the sad age of 35, acting like a bunch of Jr. High School kids. It’s sad.

Now, as always, I’m sure some people use it nicely and use it for good use, but trust me, so many do not. If you are one of those individuals that do not abuse these pages, good for you and you can respect I'm not talking about you, but the others that do abuse. The pictures of girls, half dressed, if not naked and what are they thinking? Does this make them think men will respect them? The conversations about sex and what girls are willing to do for boys, again do they think that is going to gain them respect? It is just a shame that young girls view sexual acts as a mean to get attention and/or popularity from guys.

As a woman of 40 you wish you could tell them they have an entire future in front of them with opportunities and advantages, why do they want to waste it acting like a fool, writing trash, putting their pictures on a web site, and letting the world know of their sexual acts? We need our girls to be more powerful and realize they can be more in life than this.

If you have a young daughter, or even a son, read their My Space page and get involved, you will be shocked. Don’t think “your child is different” or “your child just isn’t that bold or brave”, trust me you might just be surprised.

Life is a Lesson




Is it now? If you read Jacob's blog (see link) he is beating himself up these days as he feels young and immature on how he handles his daily life adventures and tasks to get where he needs to be in life.

I stand by my earlier blog that I think you have to live your life in a certain order so that you can find out who you are and become what you want to be in life. The catch is that some of us get there quick, some get there slower and sadly; some of us never make it at all.

Is there a finish line? Of course not, it's who YOU want to be and how happy you are with yourself. There are some things my dad has taught me and things I've learned along the way that have helped me realize things about the world:

My dad told me one time; never trust anyone that ever talks with their eyes shut. To this day, if someone does this I can't trust them.

I truly believe a team effort is the only successful way to succeed in life. Going it alone leaves you alone. However your team has to be strong and solid. If there are weak links, your team will not succeed. You must work at your team constantly to keep it strong.

Keep your friends close and your enemies closer.

A true hero doesn't always wear a cape and jump buildings at a single bound. He or she may be closer than you think. Look around.

I believe there is true evil in the world.

I believe there is also true goodness in the world.

I believe everyone has lied, cheated, stolen, manipulated, conned, cursed, and thought evil thoughts in their lifetime. If they tell you they haven't, they are a liar. It's human nature to do all of the above in some way, shape or form.

If an animal or a child dislikes a person it is a definate sign that there is something wrong with the person. Animals and children have that natural sense about them.

First impressions DO matter and 90% of the time they are accurate. You can size someone up within 30 minutes of meeting them if you are able to talk to them for that time period. Don't get me wrong; I'm not judging a book by it's cover. That would be looking at someone and just guessing. I mean you have to be able to talk to them, but if you can, it's that simple.

Sex and intimacy in a relationship is vital. If someone tells you it's not, their relationship is not that great.

Family is all you have in life. Friends, co-workers, neighbors come and go, but family is forever. Now you can't pick them unfortunately, they are given to you, but as I've said before; they come with attributes and if you look hard enough you can find things within each person that you can use to the families advantage to create a strong unit and avoid the differences of the individuals. (Team effort).

Pets a great source of comfort and everyone should have one. They love you unconditionally when you need them the most.

Your children do not always turn out as expected and there are no "instruction manuals" to tell you what is right and what is wrong. There is also no "blame rule" if they do not turn out as "right" as expected. You do the best you can and then you have to realize that is all you can do. At the adult level they make their OWN choices. If those choices are bad, this is not your fault. You can love them, but you do not have to be responsible for their bad choices.

I believe in true love and the one great love. It happens, it's wonderful but it can also break your heart. It's worth it. True love is an incredible experience.

I believe in Fate.

I believe in the Golden Rule and although sometimes we falter, you have to realize that in general it's a good rule to try and follow.

I think if their was a little less grey and a lot more black and white, we'd be better off in our communication.

Well those are just a few, but if you had ask me in my twenties, I would have laughed at a lot of these. It just takes time to realize things about people, careers, family, love, finances and how the world works for you. You just have to get comfortable with YOU and when you do, things just sort of fall in to place.

Thursday, February 21, 2008

Snow Alert








OK, Kentuckiana is freaking out because it's going to snow. I crack up every time, because it's too easy not to, but I have to give them credit they are trying to get prepared this time.

They are shutting down schools NOW and telling people they are thinking of shutting down the City. I guess it's better to be prepared than unprepared. Nothing like getting everyone on the highway at the same time trying to get their kids and get home.

"Girl in Ditch" will not be heading toward the same hill again I can tell you that! She will safely head for home and stay away from the crazy people.

I'm sure the TV will be filled with the Newscasters for the rest for the day and night with minute-by-minute updates to tell us about each flake and each ice drop on the road. What a fun day. I can't wait.

Tuesday, February 19, 2008

Scared of this Mac Daddy Frog



Scientists announced Monday the discovery of fossils of a frog the size of a bowling ball that lived among the dinosaurs. The frog weighed a whopping 10 pounds and had teeth, prompting researchers to dub it Beelzebufo -- "Devil Toad." Here's how big Beelzebufo would compare to a pencil and a modern frog.

The discovery, led by paleontologist David Krause at New York's Stony Brook University, was published Monday by the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences.

OK, I would DIE! This would freak me out and I'd rather be eaten by a dinosaur! Yep, crunch me up like gravel in his teeth instead of this bad boy, I would DIE.

Too creepy for words.

Monday, February 18, 2008

President's Day




A time for Furniture Sales, Car Sales, 1/2 off on all Clothing Items at shops right? And, a lot of people get vacation days and kids get off school, but does anyone really give a crap that it's President's Day?

I remember we actually studied it in school and remembered our President's during the week! Go figure. When did it turn in to just another 1/2 off sales day? Everything is about commercializm at this point isn't it?

Heaven forbid we would actually take a moment and reflect upon the real reason we have this holiday and respect our Presidents. I love history and I have read many books on Lincoln and Washington. I have decided just recently that my challenge for 2008 is to read one book on each President of the US. Yep, not because it's President's Day, but because I do have an interest in the Presidential History and thought I might just give it a shot. I have already read many stories on Washington, but to begin my journey into my challenge fairly I will start with a true book on Washington this week.

I'll keep you posted on my challenge!

Migraines and the Barometric Pressure




Oh my gosh...........most people watch the news to catch the daily forecast, I have to watch the news to see what the barometric pressure is going to be like for the day. It's crazy. It causes my headaches to be out of control. If you suffer from Migraine headaches you know what I'm talking about! This weekend was crazy. 32 degrees on Friday, 60 degrees on Saturday and Sunday and now we're back to freezing again. It's killing me!

The ups and downs of the barometric pressures are killing me and my headaches and then you throw in PMS or anything related to smoke, smells or anything that might throw off my head and I'm basically screwed.

My companies insurances SUCKS big time and although I'm allowed 30 a month by my doctor, I'm only allowed 4 a month per my Insurance company. What is that madness? So, my insurance company gets to control my medicine intake, when my Doctor realizes that I need more! OK, that makes perfect sense right? AND to top it off, 4 pills cost $60 dollars! That's a good price right, you'd think I was trying to buy drugs from the street or something. It's ridiculous. AND........for a bonus my monthly headaches pills are also $60.00 to prevent my headaches! Yeah, we have GREAT insurance!

Anyway, migraines suck no matter how you slice them and the weather pretty much controls my life at this point. I live for cold at this point! Bring on the snow baby, bring on the snow!

Sunday, February 17, 2008

Dogs vs. Cats

Lets me preface this by saying (again) I'm an animal person so I feel I can voice my opinion as I love ALL animals, big and small (even frogs as long as they don't come near me!)

I have had my mom's dogs this weekend and the difference in keeping 2 dogs and having all my cats around is just huge. They are so much, more trouble. They are messing, loud, whiny, and you have to "deal with them" all the time. You have to take them outside and then they drag dirt back in your house. I'm used to my kitties just using the litter box downstairs and I clean it out.

Cats are also much tidier why is that? They clean themselves constantly and they stay clean. Dogs are just dirty and dirt tends to stick to them. These are just two little yorkies too, I can't imagine the dirt of big dogs. I would freak out.

I love all animals and I sometimes wish I had a bulldog, but then I think of the mess and think "no thank you". I guess I will have to just stick with cats.

Martian Child



As I'm sure most of you know I'm a HUGE John Cusask fan and this is just one more movie I can add to my collection. I totally have a crush on this man. He is cute, intelligent, an incredible actor and has this persona on screen that just works for me. Jacob wouldn't take me to the movie's to see this (or Becoming Jane, by the way)and both were great.

This is a great movie about the way a child is effected by the pain and agony of abandonment and how one person can change their life forever. It's a feel good movie and Joan Cusak is in it also and as always, she adds her wit and charm to the movie. Love her too!

I recommend this to anyone that just wants to watch a feel good family movie.

Friday, February 15, 2008

Becoming Jane



Based on a true story about the famous author Jane Austen, this is a true, classic, love story based on my concept of "the one". I have much more interest in this than just a movie to rent on a Friday night. I have read her novels and respect and admire her work.

In her short life Jane Austen wrote six incredible novels, one being Pride and Prejudice, which is a true romance novel depicting love, honor, pride and prejudice and the characters come alive as you read the book. The movie is incredible and I found myself lost in their lives.

The story of Jane Austen is even more incredible. Based on a her life in the 1700's and she is expected to marry "up" to give her family wealth she is offered a hand in marriage to a well-to-do gentleman. In the meantime, she meets Tom LeFroy, a common man who can offer her nothing but love. He works for his Uncle learning the law to earn money to send to his large family and falls madly in love with Jane. The Uncle will not allow the marriage due to her low income based life. They are torn with what to do and decide to run away together, but Jane knows if he leaves his Uncle's money that Tom's family will not survive financially. She decides to give him up because it is the right thing to do.

Their love is real, you can see if and feel it on the screeen and the characters are played out well by Anne Hathaway and James McAvoy. Jane Austen never married in her lifetime and continued to love Tom LeFroy her entire life. He was her "one". He married someone that was "chosen" for him by his Uncle. He named his eldest daughter "Jane". They did meet later in life and would always remain friends and secretly in love with each other.

Most of her novels come from her experiences in her life and I find it intriguing that love, even in the 1700's is just as it is today, passionate, hurtful, painful and real and if you have the opportunity to read her books you can feel her pain and understand what real love can be for two people. She is an amazing author.

Her novels are:

Pride and Prejudice
Sense and Sensibility
Emma
Persuasion
Mansfield Park
Lady Susan
Northanger Abbey

She stated once that she would "live by her pen" and all her characters, although would have trials and tribulations throughout her novels, each would end up with all their expectations and dreams fulfilled. She believed in happy endings. Sad, since her life was not given the happy ending she deserved with the love of her life.

I recommend this movie if you want to watch a true love story. It is a good movie.

Thursday, February 14, 2008

The DAY!



HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY




It's here, the big day, the day of love! The day that I'm sure florist dread. Although they make a mint off of people so they should love it! Girls go to work and wait patiently, hoping to see if they will get called to the front desk for a delivery. I remember those days. It is a nice feeling to have a Valentine isn't it?

I have a Valentine this year, actually two, sometimes Valentine's come in all different types, and just because they may not be your "sweetheart" doesn't necessarily mean that your Valentine won't be just as special.

I received a very special Valentine from someone that means the world to me and it was the sweetest Valentine card ever. I also received a Valentine from the cutest 3-yr. old boy and if you haven't ever received one of those, well you haven't lived.

I know there are anti-Valentine people out there and hey, I'm not exactly "high on love" these days, and you don't have to be "in love" to make Valentine's Day the best day ever for you. Valentine's Day is about love, who YOU love and who loves YOU back. It's just a day to show people you care. It doesn't have to be commercialized and you don't have to spend $200 to make a point.

We exchanged old-fashioned Valentine's at work and it was a blast! It's fun to do the simple things!

Hope your day was good!

Wednesday, February 13, 2008

In case you want to Kiss your Valentine





Facts about Kissing........

Greeting a Stranger: 40 percent of respondents are uncomfortable when someone they've just met tries to kiss them when saying hello or goodbye; more women than men indicate that this lip maneuver makes them feel uncomfortable (49 percent women, 30 percent men).

Who's Kissing Where: Those from the Northeast are most likely to indicate that they greet very close friends with a kiss (42 percent).

A Family Affair: About one-third (37 percent total; 32 percent males, 41 percent of females) will only greet immediate family members with a kiss; those from the Midwest (42 percent) and the South (41 percent) are more likely to say this.

"Hello, Dahling": An air kiss is more likely to come from women (15 percent) than men (10 percent); fewer men and women express their preference for the double-cheek kiss as a casual greeting (7 percent).

Smooch the Pooch: 45 percent of women and 27 percent of males admit that they kiss their pets.

Top Kisses: Tender kisses (42 percent) and lustful, passionate kisses (40 percent) rank the highest on the list of favorite types of kisses for both sexes; however, women consider the tender kiss to be the best (48 percent), while men prefer the lustful, passionate pucker (46 percent).

Surprise Smooch!: Women favor spontaneous kisses more than men (38 percent women, 31 percent of men).

First... and Forbidden: 27 percent of adults surveyed consider their first kiss to be one of their favorite types of kisses, while 12 percent feel that a forbidden kiss is tops.

Kiss and Make Up: One in 10 Americans prefer the kiss-and-make-up variety of kiss.

Butterfly Kisses: Women favor lots of small kisses more than twice as much as men (12 percent versus 5 percent).

Opening Kiss: 58 percent of total respondents feel that it is perfectly fine to kiss on the first date, though men are more apt to be open to first date frolicking (65 percent men, 51 percent of women).

Ladies, Take the Lead: More than half (58 percent) of men believe that the woman can make the first move for a first kiss.

Goodbye Kiss: Men and women differ when it comes to bad dates and kissing: 39 percent of women say they will never kiss a bad date good night, compared to only 26 percent of men who won't. Interestingly, 13 percent of the men state that they have ended a bad date with a kiss, while only 6 percent of women replied the same.

The Preteen Peck: 22 percent of respondents admit that their first "real" kiss happened when they were between 11 and 13 years old.

High School Hot Lips: The most common age for a first "real" kiss to have happened was between the ages of 14 and 16 (37 percent), with 18 percent getting their first memorable smooch between 17 and 19 years old.

Still Waiting: 4 percent of Americans are still waiting for their first real kiss.

Show Dog Driver

I feel I can type this because I am a true animal lover and this has nothing really to do with the harm of animals, just stupid people and my curiosity of stupid people.

I get in my car today and drive out of the parking lot for lunch and I get behind a Toyota, SUV, type car. There are stickers all over the back stating SHOW DOGS, SHOW DOGS ON BOARD, DO YOU BELIEVE IN LIFE AFTER DEATH, IF SO TOUCH MY SHOW DOG (my personal favorite). OK, we get it; you are traveling with Show Dogs!

Now, I’m a lover of show dogs, I have no reason NOT to be a lover of show dogs. I watch it on TV (sometimes when NFL is over), but I do respect that they are great animals and I know they are expensive, and I could see through the back window that she had two cages in the back of her SUV for her dogs to travel comfortably I’m sure.

Here is my question: Does she really HAVE to drive 10 MPH in a 25 MPH lane? Seriously, are they that fragile? Again, I’m an animal lover and I have transported many (and I can tell you MANY) pets to and from houses, Vets, hospitals in fragile states, but I don’t see the need to travel 10 MPH in a 25 MPH lane. It wasn’t like the road was rough terrain; it was a black top road. Was she afraid of a sudden stop in the middle of a parking lot? I can’t help but wonder.

Then she does the pull over so I can go around her thing. I have to admit, I was tailgating her ass, but come on 10 MPH? Wouldn’t you have been? Were they mini poodles or something and they were going to fall through the cracks of the cage? I could see their heads so I think not. Anyway, I had to wonder, does she travel this slow on the highway? She bugged me and it made me want to beep, of course I did NOT, because I’m an animal person, but she is just stupid.

Now I feel better that I could vent this!

Girl in a ditch.....................

Monday afternoon at 6:00 PM car goes in the ditch and there is approximately 1 inch of snow on the road. The only reason the car went in the ditch is because the steep hill it was on had not been cleaned. OK, no big deal, girl has Triple A service (Gold Member at that, one phone call and they tell her 60 minutes and she’ll be out of the ditch.

Fifty-five minutes later Wheeler Tow Service shows up. Girl puts on coat, hat, shoes and gloves and walks down the hill. There is now two inches of snow on the road and still no snow plow in sight. Wrecker guy says (rather rudely), “I can’t tow you. My truck is too big and the road hasn’t been cleaned. Sorry, you’ll have to call for a smaller truck with another service”. With that he is gone.

Girl goes back and calls Triple A. They assure her they will call another service and because she is a Gold Member they will rush the situation. Forty-five minutes later the second tow truck shows up. Girl puts on coat, hat, shoes and gloves and she also notices a man in a white pick up truck get out behind the tow truck driver and he is talking to him. As she walks down the hill, neither seem to care that this is her car, nor do they come to talk to her. As she heads toward them she falls down the hill in the snow. There is now approximately 2 ½ inches of snow and still no snow plow in sight.

As she approaches the tow truck driver she hears the man in the white truck say, “Well we need to find the owner of this car because she is an obstruction to other traffic and I’m having her towed out of here!” The girl, already wet, cold and tired begins to raise her voice and state, “I AM the owner of the car and this is MY tow truck that I ordered. I TRYING to get my car out of the ditch. What business is this of his anyway?” The tow truck driver then informs her that this is policeman Dave and he lives at the top of the hill. Still angry and cold she stands her ground. Policeman Dave then says, “Your car is an obstruction and it MUST be towed now.” Again (tow truck parked right in front of his truck” and girl says, “That is what I’m trying to do, did you notice the tow truck here?”

Tow truck driver #2 says he needs help from his partner and he’ll be here in about 30 minutes. Policeman Dave tells girl to go in where it’s warm and he’ll call her when they arrive. Forty-five minutes later the partner arrives. Girl puts on wet coat, wet hat, wet shoes and wet gloves and heads back down the hill. Partner tells policeman they can’t pull the car out until the city comes and plows the hill. It’s just too slick. Policeman calls the station and tells the city they MUST have the snowplow come out. There are now 4 inches of snow on the road. Policeman tells girl to go back in the house and wait for the snowplow and they’ll pull her car out. She is to call the tow truck driver once the snow plow has scraped the road. She is also to call the police dispatcher to tell her that my car is no longer an obstruction and she is given a number. Policeman Dave is apparently taking himself off the case.

1 hour later the snow plow arrives. Girl immediately calls the tow truck driver and the dispatcher says, “They’ll be right there.” Forty-five minutes later new tow truck pulls up and Girl puts on wet coat, wet hat, wet shoes and wet gloves, however when she gets to the door the tow truck is backing up and leaving. Girl calls tow truck company and she is dispatched through to the driver. He says, more rudely than the first tow truck guy, “We can’t do this, I’m the supervisor and it’s too dark and you have foot of snow out here. (It’s only 4 inches by the way). This will have to wait until morning.” With that he hangs up.

Girl calls police dispatcher, Jackie, who is the nicest person ever. She tells her that tow truck #3 has bailed and tells her the history. Jackie then says she’ll call Bennett Tow Truck company, as they work for the city and they should be able to pull it out as a “police call”.
Thirty minutes later Bennett Tow Truck arrives and before girl can even get her wet coat on, tow truck #4 is already backing away from the scene. It’s a record; he didn’t even get out of the truck to talk to the girl.

Girl calls dispatcher, Jackie, back again and tells her he lasted 7 seconds and bailed. Jackie says maybe policemen will just come and put some flares or barricades around the car until morning.

Thirty minutes later, it’s now Midnight, not one, not two, but three police cars pull up to the “scene” and there is a knock at the girl’s door. (Did we really need three police cars?) She of course answers and they ask her to come outside and tell her story. Girl puts on wet coat, wet hat, wet shoes and wet gloves and walks down the hill to tell her story. It down begins to sleet as she tells her story. The hill that was scraped is now iced over.

Policeman Tucker gets on the radio and explains to tow truck driver #5 that he WILL show up and he WILL tow the car out tonight or he WILL lose his contract with the city. Policeman then tells the girl to go back in to the house and stay dry (as if) until the tow truck comes.

1 hour later the tow truck arrives and this time he does pull the car out of the ditch, but he charges her $100 dollars. Girl has already been on the phone arguing with Triple A throughout all of this, by the way, to state that they WILL pay for this since all of their loser tow trucks wouldn’t do the job and the city demanded her car must be moved. It took two idiots and then a supervisor, however they agreed to pay IF we mailed the original receipt in to them (they had to make it hard)

2:00 AM in the morning Girl calls dispatcher to tell her she is NO LONGER an OBSTRUCTION on the road and the crisis is over. Girl goes to bed, cold, damp and exhausted.

Towing of Vehicle $100.00
Cleaning mud off of the car $8.00
Being able to make fun of the City Police and Tow Service forever………………Priceless

Friday, February 8, 2008

80's Comeback with Lipstick Jungle







Did anyone watch this last night? It was the premiere and it wasn't so bad. It has the same writer's as Sex in the City. It has Andrew McCarthy and he's an 80's boy! Yep, St. Elmo's Fire and Pretty in Pink! LOVE HIM! He's tried a couple other series but last night he wasn't so shabby! The show wasn't so bad and I will watch it and give it my support to give my love to an 80's guy!

Wednesday, February 6, 2008

Things Women Want for Valentine's Day










1. A Day with no responsibilities - to do nothing

2. A Day at the Spa

3. A Romantic Get Away

4. Jewelry

5. Something creative, a homemade card or something with sentimental value

6. Shopping Spree

7. A Coach Purse

8. To become a Stay at home Mom!

9. Flowers

10. Dinner at her favorite spot, doesn't even have to be expensive

Wouldn't it be great if we could use this?

Mr. Right Rejection Form Letter



Dear (____rejectee's name here____ ),
I regret to inform you that you have been eliminated from further contention as my Mr. Right.

As you are probably aware, the competition was exceedingly tough and dozens of well-qualified candidates such as yourself also failed to make the final cut. I will, however, keep your name on file should an opening become available. So that you may find better success in your future romantic endeavors, please allow me to offer the following reason(s) you were disqualified from the competition:

[Check all those that apply]

___ Your breasts are bigger than mine.

___ Your last name is objectionable. I can't imagine taking it, hyphenating it, or subjecting my children to it.

___ The fact that our finest dining experience to date has been at McDonald's reveals a thriftiness that I find unappealing.

___ Your inadvertent admission that you "buy condoms by the truckload" indicates that you may be interested in me for something other than my personality.

___ You failed the 20 Question Rule, i.e., I asked you 20 questions about yourself before you asked me one.

___ Your legs are skinnier than mine. If you can FIT into my pants, then you can't GET into my pants.

___ Your "Putting on a few, aren't you babe?" comment, given the 9-months pregnant size of Your Own beer gut, was inappropriate.

___ You failed the credit check.

___ I find your inability to fix my car extraordinarily unappealing.

___ The fact that your house looks as if it could be condemned at any moment is a complete turn off.

___ The phrase "My Mother" has popped up far too often in conversation.

___ The fact that we have the same conversations over and over, and they are remedial at best, bores me to tears.

___ You mention your ex-wife's name more than you mention mine.

Must Watch Movies for Valentine's Day





These are just some good old fashioned love stories:

1. Pretty Woman

2. You've Got Mail

3. Sleepless in Seattle

4. Love Story

5. While You Were Sleeping

6. Ghost

7. The Notebook

8. The Way We Were

9. Dirty Dancing

10. When Harry Met Sally

Valentine Idea




If you want something different for Valentine's Day this is a neat idea. You can order a Romance Novel featuring you and your sweetie. I have ordered this and it's fun. The link is http://booksbyyou.com

They ask you a series of questions about you and your sweetie, you choose from a few book covers and then they simply mail you a romance novel that it based on you and yours truly.

The guy I gave it to loved it.

Just something a little different and it's good for other holidays too!

Tuesday, February 5, 2008

Old Romance




Most younger generations won't recognize these couples but they are famous for staying in love. Bogart and Bacall had a love affair of passion, Paul Newman and Joann Woodward are still married and in Hollywood that is saying something and even though Fred Astaire and Ginger Rogers never married; their relationship was true love and you could see it each time they danced in each other's arms.

True romance is hard to find these days and in Hollywood it's a joke. With the likes of Brittany and Kevin in the news young people get married and divorced like it's a career change.

The old fashioned romance is the kind we long for isn't it? If you haven't ever rented some of the old romance movies you should. They really are pretty good. An Affair to Remember, Peyton Place, Love Story, Splendor in the Grass, Casablanca. Try renting one in February and checking one out. They are pretty good flicks.

Tragedies vs. Misfortunes




We have had some discussions lately about the differences between tragedies and misfortunes. We can try to tie this into Valentine's Day as all good love stories, usually have one of the other (it's a stretch, but this had to be addressed!).

We have agreed that most tragedies usually involve a death or some sort of horrific act of which the person cannot recover and their life is truly changed forever. This is a tragedy. Life does not hand out tragedies to a lot of people all day long. If you work with 10 people for example, I'd say the odds are 1 in 10 are going to have a tragedy, or maybe even 2 in 10.

Now, you've heard the expression, "Bad things happen to good people" right? These are what we consider misfortunes. You have to remember that if something happens to you and you still have your life, your family, your income, your health and your happiness, then you have suffered a misfortune, not a tragedy.

Sometimes it just takes a while for this to sink in and you have to have a moment of truth to tell yourself to 'suck it up' and get on with your life. Life is short and you need to keep living.

I know a person that has actually been involved in a tragedy and due to that tragedy has suffered repeated misfortunes. She is to be admired by many because every day she tries her best to be positive and to keep moving forward.

However, there are those that feel the world owes them something over misfortunes and they try to turn them into tragedies. These are the worst people I know. Every, single day it's what is the world going to do for me. Again, if you still have YOUR health, YOUR family, YOUR finances, YOUR ability to live then LIVE. Suck it up and live. Remember that so many have suffered far worse than you.

Tragedies vs. misfortunes.......it's just one end of the spectrum to another.

Monday, February 4, 2008

Love Scenes with Rain



It’s raining today so I thought this was an appropriate entry…………

Love scenes and rain, it’s a combination that works isn’t it? Boy and girl confessing their love is one thing, but you throw in a rain storm, some thunder and lightening and it creates a stir of emotion that we just can’t explain.

The Notebook – They’re in the boat, sexual tension is already present, along with frustration and anger from their past. Unspoken words are lingering and then it begins to rain. It’s as if the heavens open up and the words begin to pour. She shouts at him, he shouts at her and the rest my readers; is pure, romantic, lustful, history. If you’ve seen it you would love to be in that scene wouldn’t you? If you haven’t seen it I suggest that you rent it NOW.

Pride and Prejudice is another great movie with a rain scene. It’s amazing; they don’t actually ever show Elizabeth and Mr. Darcy in a compromising position; however the rain scene between them has enough sexual tension to make you want to die. It’s just pouring down raining, she has run from him, he catches up with her, only to confess his undying love for her with compassion, only be turned down with distain, hatred and a word lashing that is indescribable. At the same time you can sense how much she desires him as she is lashing out at him. It’s an amazing scene.

Sweet Home Alabama – Girl goes back to get boy; it has happened in a ton of movies, but you throw her in a wedding dress at the ocean in the pouring down rain and you have yourself a major love scene to beat all love scenes! It made the movie perfect. Lightening, thunder, rain and the perfect kiss; I’m telling you rain makes the perfect love scene.

9 ½ Weeks – There is the scene in the dark alley way where they just get soaked. It is just hot. The movie is entirely hot, but this water scene is over the top. Water pouring down on them, dark, steamy, weather and the way they are in to each other……..oh my gosh it’s just an amazing scene.

Rain intensifies a romantic moment, not sure why, but it just does. If it didn’t then writes wouldn’t write it in as much as they do. Do you have one that you’d like to share?

Victory to the Giants



I must take a break from "Love Discussions" due to the upset of the Patriots. My congratulations goes out to the Giants on their victory. What a great game and what an upset. As a colts fan I couldn't ask for a better Super Bowl game than what they played last night. I haven't seen Tom Brady on the ground more since his Stetson ads. Strahan laid him out so many times it was unbelievable.

The Giants just out played them and it was a great game. For once I'm actually thrilled to see an NFC team win the Super Bowl and I didn't give them enough credit. I just didn't think they could do it. Their defense got the job done.

Saturday, February 2, 2008

Romantic Movies


And the Winner Is................The Notebook
After asking many women to name their favorite romantic love scenes (thank you ladies) several have made the top ten, but The Notebook was on almost every list. I have to agree. This movie is just one of the MOST romantic movies ever made. Nicholas Sparks knows how to write a love novel. If you haven't seen it - rent it. If you've seen it - watch it in February. It's definately a Valentine Movie.

Other Mentionables that made the list:
1. Boomerang - comments were made that at the end when he tries to win her back and he moves closely to her face with out kissing her and tells her in a sweet whisper he can't breath with out her!

2. Sweet Home Alabama - The rain scene at the end! Oh Yeah!

3. Jerry McQuire - "You had me at Hello!"

4. Meet Joe Black - Pool side love scene. Holy Cow ladies, if you havent' seen this I suggest you check it out. If that is death then take me to the grave!

5. Top Gun - Very nice and I don't even like Tom Cruise!

6. I have to give a shout out to Pride and Prejudice - there is no sex in this movie, only sexual tension, but it's there in a major way. This movie is also a major love story for those wanting to see a true love story.

Friday, February 1, 2008

Survey says..............



A recent survey given to married women stated 64% said they would leave their husband's TODAY if they were financially sound, but most of them are not able and thus, they stay in their unhappy marriages. 64%, that's a pretty high percentage if you ask me. That means almost 1 in 3 of your friends so the next time your sitting around think about that!

Where is the love? This kind of goes back to my question that I asked in my "the one" entry. Can you name 5 couples that are truly happy that you'd bet your house on? Relationships are complex and marriage is something that requires effort from both parties. Women and men think so differently.

Dr. Helen Fisher of Rugers University, a noted anthropologist, who is also the author of such books as Why We Love has dedicated her career to understanding love. She responded to the following questions:

Q: In a nutshell, why do we fall in love?
Dr. Fisher: I’ve come to think that romantic love is one of three basic brain systems that evolved for reproduction. Each evolved for a reason: The sex drive evolved to get you out there looking for partners. Romantic love evolved to enable you to focus your energy on just one person at a time, conserving time and energy. And attachment, the feeling of security you can feel with a long-term partner, evolved to help you stay together long enough to raise kids.

Q: Can someone truly love more than one person?
Dr. Fisher: No. I think you can feel lust for more than one person, and feelings of attachment for more than one person. But not love. As the Indian aphorism goes, “The lane of love is narrow; there is room for only one.”

Q: What’s the biggest mistake people make when it comes to love?
Dr. Fisher: Some people fall in love before they really know their partner and marry in this state of romantic rapture. They should probably wait until that intense early phase wears off so they can see the flaws in the relationship before they dive in for good.

Q: What do men look for in a mate?
Dr. Fisher: Men are more likely to choose women who display signs of youth and beauty—the first time that they marry, men around the world tend to marry women who are three years younger than themselves. Men are also attracted to women who “need” them. Men want to be helpful.

Q: What do women look for in a mate?
Dr. Fisher: Women are attracted to partners with money, status, and ambition—one study found that American women seek partners who offered financial security twice as frequently as men do. If men look for “sex objects,” then women look for “success objects.”

Good information!

In the words of Tina Turner “What’s love got to do with it? Who needs a heart, when a heart can be broken?” Love is a many Splendored thing! Aaaahh true love, real love, some of us have experienced it, some of us have wished we hadn’t, some of us still long for it! Do you believe in love?
I have always been a romantic at heart and Valentine’s Day in truly my favorite holiday. Not the commercialized version, but just the day in general. I like the fact that it’s a day to show the ones you love just how much you truly love them. I have a few good ones and one or two bad ones, I’m sure we all have! I’ve also experienced a single, most romantic experience of my life and for that I’m truly grateful. I still have one Valentine wish that only one person can fulfill and we both know at this point it won’t happen, but it was discussed once and it will just be in my “wish list” for years to come.

Many wonder where did Cupid come from and why is he associated with Valentine's Day.
Cupid has long played a role in the celebrations of love and lovers. He is known as a mischievous, winged child, whose arrows that would pierce the hearts of his victims causing them to fall deeply in love. In ancient Greece he was known as Eros the young son of Aphrodite, the goddess of love and beauty. To the Roman's he was Cupid, and his mother Venus.
For the next 14 days we will take a look at love in detail. Favorite love scenes in movies, statistics about love, facts about love, thoughts about love, we'll be so "in love" with love it will be crazy. Let's have fun!